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10 Qualities A Man Looks For In A Woman?

Posted by yoMcLovin on October 21, 2010

What Does A Man Look For In A Woman.”  Even though every man is different I can honestly say we all look for the same qualities in our women and no it’s not just sex either. Some men focus on certain qualities more than others. But all and all there is a 10-point check list that most men triple check before choosing a mate. (Keep Reading)

10. Independence

  • No man wants a woman they have to baby-sit. Once in a while, like if she’s had a rough day at work, it’s great to be her shoulder to cry on, but if she can’t seem to wipe her butt without you handing her the toilet paper, she will eventually make you feel like you’re suffocating, which is a surefire way to get you running out the nearest exit. On the other hand, if she has her very own personality and opinions, can stand on her own two feet, both financially and emotionally, and is able to enjoy time away from you – while still missing you, of course – then she must be a great woman.

9. Intelligence

  • I hate to be the one to tell you this, but the ditzy dumb-blonde chick routine gets real old, real fast. Instead of being the one in total control, you’ll find yourself trying to figure out what she’s really thinking behind those glazed eyes of hers (or if she’s actually thinking at all). An intelligent woman will constantly surprise you and keep you on your toes. She won’t let you get bored of her. Besides, it’s nice to have something to talk about between all that toe-curling, spine-busting sex.

8. Sexuality

  • While we’re on the topic, a great woman has to be sexually compatible (freaky-deeky, if you’re nasty) with you. For instance, if you’re into some freaky, nasty froggy-style agendas and she’s more the “hold each other until the sun comes up” type, that’s a problem. The two of you have to be on the same page or, at least, she has to be willing to wear a smile with some whipped cream from time to time. Of course, this doesn’t imply that she has to know all the precise moves right away; it simply means that you and she have an undeniable attraction toward each other, and are able to communicate your desires verbally (or with physical cues). It is important that you please each other in the bedroom, or on top of the dryer – whatever the case may be.

7. Attractiveness

  • I know, this one is kind of obvious, but important nonetheless. A great woman will not only want to look good for you, but also for her. She should always look her best and be well put together – matching draws is a definite plus (we notice when you put that work in). Men have to be proud to have their women on their arm and enjoy the sight of her in any light. And this doesn’t mean that she has to be a Halle Berry clone. Remember that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so if you think her big ol’ booty svelte figure or nappy kitchen uncontrollable curls are beautiful, you’re allowed.

6. Respect

  • This is very important. Your partner must respect you. This means that they listen to you, even if they don’t necessarily agree with what you’re saying. And, of course, they never try to humiliate or demean you in any way, shape or form. A phenomenal person won’t ever cause scenes in public or in front of your friends and family, and will always wait to discuss matters with you in private. If they respect you, chances are that they will behave in a tactful and diplomatic manner in most situations, which is definitely a good thing.

5. Non-Controlling

  • Do not – I repeat – DO NOT get involved with someone who tries to get you to eat goat cheese and fruit for breakfast and insists that you give up the things you love most. You will end up resenting them more than you can imagine. A good partner lets you be you in all your glory, dirty draws and all. They have to realize the differences that men and women have and should allow you to be yourself.

4. Non-Complaining

  • There is nothing worse someone who nags! A great woman knows this and chooses her battles wisely. She knows when to speak up and when to let it slide. You don’t want a woman who will give you hell for leaving a couple of dishes in the sink occasionally. However, if you’re shacking up and you stay out all night without calling her, and she lets you have it, then you’re setting yourself up for disaster. This is a situation that nobody would let slide – not even a great woman.

3. Pleasant

  • A great woman will not only help your mother in the kitchen, listen to your long stories about nothing and hang out with your friends, but she will enjoy it. She’ll make a real effort to get to know and love the most important people in your life. And she won’t try to get you to ditch your best friends. She’ll actually empathize with your homeboy getting dumped and suggest that the crew take him out to cheer him up. Not only that, but your friends won’t roll their eyes and moan when you mention that she’ll be joining y’all when she gets off work (yes, women like this do exist).

2. Loving

  • If you have found a woman who loves you for who you really are and not who you pretend or try to be sometimes, you should definitely hang on to her. A woman who doesn’t try to change you is hard to find. Of course, all women have their slightly annoying habits (leaving a drop of juice in the fridge) that their mate has to contend with, but if she really loves you, she will be able to cope with these. Another way to know if she really loves you is by observing the way she looks at you and treats you on an on a daily basis. If the sight of you doesn’t seem to faze her either way, and she doesn’t really seem to care about what you have to say, she’s either playing very hard to get, or sees you as just some guy. But if a surprise visit or phone call from you makes her light up, there’s no denying that she loves you.

1. She makes you want to be a better man.

  • Stop making that face… any man who has a great woman or wife will tell you that she makes him want to be a better man. She doesn’t have to say or do anything; it just is that way. If you suddenly feel bad about how you treated your sister or find yourself trying to get your finances in order, you might want to think about your motivation for doing so. It could be love.

Ladies this right here is the key to love, if you are this woman then you probably already have a man. If you aren’t this woman, become her… fast.

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A Man Needs More From His Woman Than Just Good Food And Good Head

Posted by yoMcLovin on October 11, 2010

I need more than just good head and good food. During my time being a sexual intellectual I have discovered that some women think giving good head and making a mean ass sandwich makes for a good woman. I’m sorry but it does not. A woman can cook like Betty Crocker, and suck one like Heather Hunter, and still get left. I hear women say she gave her man home cooked meals and she swallowed. Yet he still strayed. Because contrary to popular belief most of us men are just as complex as women, whether we like to admit it or not.

I know personally I need more than just good head and good food. I know women that can whip up a meal that would put anything made on food network to shame. That’s one of the benefits of living in the south, yet things didn’t work out between us. I know other women who could make Marie Luv look like a novice at giving her man oral sensation. Yet in still they are single like George Washington’s money. This is because men need more than just good food and good head.

Sure a way to man’s heart is through his stomach and pants, but we need to feel like a woman is there for us. Not there for the things we can provide. That hits home for me because of what I do and who I am. This is a new chapter in my life where I am becoming a bit more aware of why a woman is with me. Is it because she understands I can provide her with everything she needs in a man, or because she wants to enjoy the finer things in life on someone else’s dollar? Women need to let their man know that she is there for him no matter what! Even if he can’t pay her electric bill, she should still love the guy.

Women also need to be able to fulfill a man’s need to be the king of the world. I need a girl on my arm that is going to enhance my brand. While I yearn to be in love with a woman who can cook, give good head and is there for me no matter what. If her body resembles the indigenous people of a remote South American rain forest than our relationship is not going to work. As shallow as this may sound, men need to be able to bring his woman out in public and be proud of her. Looks are important to some men, and other’s not as much. It all boils down to ‘is this the right person for you’.

Over the years I found myself settling for second best, for the fish I caught and stayed with because I was starving. From personal experience I am going to tell everyone reading this blog that it is totally ok to be picky; totally okay to have high standards. Ask yourself do you think Bill Gates settled on his version of Windows? Did Steve Jobs settle on the final version of the iPhone4? Probably not! Is your love not worth more than an expensive phone?

So I’m still looking for my Cinderella, The girl who is going to suck and fcuk me, cook a great meal, be there for me, and help me shit on any other dude around because she’s the hottest woman in the building. I also need a woman whose goals are on par with my goals and I need a bunch more from a woman. Now as far as what I am going to offer my girl. That’s a post for another day. But it’s coming because women need just as much as men need when it comes to love, if not more. #AWESOME

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